Why this matters
The numbers.
A stupidly big discount from a team of jerks does not earn a referral. People do not send friends back for a deal. They send them to people they trust.
The equation
Empathy plus trust equals a sale. Empathy is the spark. Trust is the fuel.
Listening, caring, asking smart questions, and asking "why." Looking at the world through the customer's lens.
Your CRM and desking tool cannot measure this.Following through. Admitting what you do not know and then showing up with the answer, including at delivery.
Lead with kindness: it takes down anxiety and stress.Three one-liners that start trust
Not a script to recite. A starting point in your own words.
Say"Just so I'm clear, what's most important to you in your next vehicle?" Get the top five to seven things, then find the hot button and why it is a hot button. You sell those things, not the whole car.
Say"Let me walk you through what I know, and I'll flag anything I'm not sure about so I can get you the answer." Keep a notepad in your back pocket and write the questions down.
Say"Would it be okay if I checked in with you tomorrow to make sure everything made sense?" It tells them you are not letting them fall, and a redelivery is fine if they need one.
Talk-time rules of thumb
Floor rules that put trust to work.
Under 45%
Consultants who talk less than 45% of the time have higher win ratios.
90 / 10
Andrew's rule: 90% of the conversation about the customer, 10% about you.
85 / 15
If it is about the product, 85% about the customer's life and 15% about the product.
The scorecard
Score each behavior 0 (not seen), 1 (sometimes) or 2 (every time). Use it on a ride-along, a recorded call or a deal review.
| Behavior | Spark or fuel | Score 0-2 |
|---|---|---|
| Web lead answered by a real person within one minute | Spark | |
| Asked "what's most important to you" and got the top five to seven | Spark | |
| Asked "why" questions without offending | Spark | |
| Customer talked more than half the time | Spark | |
| Wrote down questions and said "I'll get you that answer" | Fuel | |
| Came back with every answer promised | Fuel | |
| Asked permission to check in the day after delivery | Fuel | |
| Greeted "I'm just looking" with something human | Spark |
Manager rollout: 15 minutes
Run it in this week's sales meeting.
- Minutes 0 to 3. Read the 95% and 61% numbers. Ask: what is the last thing a customer said about us that had nothing to do with the car?
- Minutes 3 to 6. Write "empathy plus trust equals a sale" on the board. Split the room into spark and fuel and list two behaviors under each.
- Minutes 6 to 12. Pairs role-play the three one-liners. The partner scores the table above and counts how much of the time the "customer" talked.
- Minutes 12 to 15. Check your lead response: who is answering web leads personally within one minute? Set the day you will review scorecards.
Weekly inspection
Inspect the behavior, not the result. Closing ratio is the lagging number.
| Consultant | Leads answered within 1 minute | Scorecard total (of 16) | Next-day check-ins asked | Promised answers delivered |
|---|---|---|---|---|
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See the pilotAndrew Sardone, host of the AutoKnerd Podcast · andrew@autoknerd.com